Welcome

Welcome

I live in a sexless marriage. I have found a community of support online at the Experience Project called: I Live in a Sexless Marriage (or ILIASM)  There are over 20,000 members of this community.  Some have ‘fixed’ their sexless marriages. Some are out of their sexless marriages. Some are struggling to find their way...

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When you turn refuser

When you turn refuser

Many people in the I Live in a Sexless Marriage Community (ILIASM) have struggled for years to get their partner to give them sexual affection and attention.  And then, at some point, you just don’t want it anymore. Or you get it, but don’t like...

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Emotional abuse in the sexless marriage

Emotional abuse in the sexless marriage

Some members of the ILIASM community believe that refusing to have sex with your partner is emotional abuse. Refusing intimacy can be symptomatic of an emotionally abusive relationship. In general, emotionally or verbally abusive relationships can be described as ‘walking on eggshells’. If you...

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The Passive-Aggressive Spouse

The Passive-Aggressive Spouse

If your spouse is passive aggressive, they may be withholding sex as a means of hidden control or aggression. Their behaviour is crazy-making and they may even make subtle...

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Myths

Myths

There are many myths about sexless marriages. And because people rarely talk about sexless marriages openly and honestly, these myths are rarely countered. Your own refusing spouse may have...

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Frequently asked questions

Frequently asked questions

..about sexless marriages and the Experience Project ILIASM Board Where are the success stories? Do you mean the stories where your sexless marriage turns into a satisfying and intimate...

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Your choices

Your choices

If you live in a sexless marriage, this is not the end of the road. You do have choices. Unfortunately they aren’t very appetising choices. Stay in the marriage,...

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